If Your Presentation BOMBS – Take a Lesson From My Grandson!

My grandson, Carson, just turned one. He’s not quite walking, but he sure is trying. Hewon’t give up, and I expect we’ll see videos of those first solo steps very soon. As I watched him, I’m reminded of lessons that apply to learning how to be a great speaker.

If you’ve never walked, it takes awhile to learn how. If you’ve never given presentations, it takes awhile to learn how.

If you’re learning to walk, and fall down, you need to pull yourself up, and try, again. If your presentation BOMBS, you need to pull yourself up and try, again.

I think you see where I’m going with this Post.

Walking is a skill we learn. We don’t come into this world walking. We don’t learn to do this the first time we pull ourselves up and try to move our feet. It takes perseverance. We can’t give up when we don’t do it right the first time, or anytime after that. Falling down is part of the learning process.

We don’t fall down and verbally beat ourselves up about it with negative self-talk like: “I’m a failure. I’ll never learn how to walk. Everyone will laugh at me if I try it again and fall. I’m a loser!” Often, no one is there to pick us up, so we need to pull ourselvesup.

Sometimes when we fall, there is help available. Parents, siblings, and others help the child. We encourage them and applaud their efforts. Books, blogs, Toastmaster Clubs, and presentation coaches help the speaker when he stumbles. Their success are also recognized by applause and praise.

You can’t learn to walk without falling down. You can’t become a great presenter without falling downa number of times, either!

Most everyone learns to walk. We continue trying until we get it right. Once we learn this skill, we’re able to use it the rest of our lives.

Not everyone learns to be a good speaker and presenter. Why is this? We’re afraid of failure. We’re afraid we’ll make a fool of ourselves and forever everyone will remember how poor we performed at the lectern.

I fell down, and stayed down too long!

After taking a Public Speaking Continuing Education Course I joined a Toastmasters Club. I had given a pretty good Icebreaker Speech, the first one Toasties do, and didn’t prepare as I should have for my second talk. It BOMBED and I fell down. Instead of getting up and working hard on my next presentation, I dropped out. It wasn’t until several years later, when I realized how important presentation skills were, that I joined a different club.

I won’t tell you I didn’t Bomb, again, because I certainly did. I delivered some speeches not worthy of being presented a second time. However, and often with encouragement and help from others,I did stand, again!

Pleaselearn from my mistake. If you BOMB and fall down, don’t wait years to stand, again, Pull yourself up immediately!

How Light Up T Shirts Make The Best 21st Birthday Present

A person’s 21st birthday is one of the most important ones in their lives. It is the time that they are officially considered an adult and can finally go to bars to hang out with their friends. Because the 21st birthday takes place during college for most people, it is important to find a present that is affordable but fun at the same time. That is why light up t shirts are a great option for a friend’s 21st.

Stylish

When someone goes out for their birthday they want to look great and that is just one of the ways that light up t shirts can help. These shirts are incredibly stylish and eye-catching with their solid colors and colorful flashing lights. Anyone who has one of these shirts is part of a growing fashion trend and their outfit will be noticed and complimented. Because the shirt looks so nice, the birthday person can even wear it for other celebrations later on.

People Know

Most people like to feel as if they are the center of attention on their birthdays and if your friend is one of those people, then light up t shirts are definitely a great option. Because of their stylishness and bright lights, your friend will be sure to stand out on their birthday. Of course, if the shirt mentions the fact that it’s their birthday, everyone in the bar will notice and they may even get sung to.

Match The Music

Some people are concerned about whether the flashing lights on t shirts will be distracting when at bars but they can actually add a lot to the ambience. That is because some of the shirts are designed so that their flashes will echo the beat of the music playing in the background. In an environment like a bar or club there will be no problem with the sensors making out the beat and flashing appropriately.

Comfort All Night

One of the final reasons that anyone would be glad to get a light up shirt on their 21st birthday is because of the comfort involved. People tend to try to look their best on their birthday and sometimes this means being uncomfortable. But light up shirts are not only stylish, but they are incredibly comfortable as well. They fit like a normal t shirt and the lighting element doesn’t heat up to the touch, meaning there is no risk of burns or irritation. Even better, they are comfortable enough to wear all night depending on how late you stay up celebrating.

Effectively Reduce the Use of Authority When Negotiating

When you negotiate, to what ‘authority’ do you succumb? When we negotiate, information is presented to enhance or demur the perception of authority. At times, we are told information being conveyed came from some form of authority. Thus, the projection of that information is supposed to possess validity and impress us. When such information is presented to you, dressed in the trappings of authority, if the information doesn’t appear to be valid, or you have a ‘gut’ feeling that it doesn’t reside well with you, question its validity.

It appears that Michael Jackson, bless his soul, relied upon an authority to address his concerns of well being. In the end, it appears that authority misguided him.

Another problem that occurs with information, coming from the quarters of authority, is the fact that some people will view it as being suspect, when in reality, it’s valid. As an example, had Michael Jackson not passed away, but instead was rushed to the hospital and the public was told he was hospitalized due to some undisclosed illness, or whatever the reason his ‘handlers’ felt would serve Michael’s interest, some people would have sought something more sinister behind the message. They would have questioned the motives of those presenting the information and possibly thought it was a publicity stunt to highlight his pending tour. They might have even thought it was some form of disguise to solicit empathy for Michael. Those possessing such thoughts might have justified their beliefs based on what they may have considered to be, ‘the strange behavior’ that Michael displayed in the past.

The point is, when you’re negotiating, don’t always rely on information to be factual, in the form in which it’s presented, and don’t be too quick to discount its validity. You should always mentally question, the motives of the other negotiator, what it is that he’s attempting to do, and what he seeks as an outcome. By doing so, you’ll get insight into how he wishes you to perceive the information being presented and you’ll be able to reconcile how you’re perceiving the data against that backdrop.

When negotiating, use all of your senses. Observe the manner by which the other negotiator is presenting. Look for signs through his body language that indicates dissimilarities between his words and body gestures. Pay attention to his pitch and tone when he’s speaking. Once you note variations in his speech from that of earlier parts of the conversation, mentally note those differences and follow the lead of his body. The body never lies. It will project the truth much clearer and assuredly than the spoken word. Once you’re able to discern fact from fiction at the negotiation table, you’ll start winning more negotiation sessions. You’ll become a savvy negotiator that will walk away from the negotiation with more of what was on the table… and everything will be right with the world.

The Negotiation Tips Are…

• As we negotiate, there are times when we intuitively don’t trust what we hear or see. When that occurs, question why you’re experiencing such feelings. There will be reasons behind such emotions.
• In order to become a more experienced negotiator, commit to gaining insight into the subtle nuances of body language. There’s a hidden world of secret information in the gestures of someone’s body maneuvers.
• If you are astute and don’t allow your position to be swayed by the misrepresentation of information coming from ‘authority’, you’ll be very well positioned to point the negotiation in an advantageous direction.